22 responses so far ↓

• 1 Nievy // Jul 28, 2008 at 4:08 pm

  Yo, I must say, you guys are some fine black men and it’s good to hear your thoughts and opinions as black men, but that last show yaw just did about dealing with a “black woman”, some of that stuff was straight disrespectful to the black woman, thus explains why we are single and don’t want to deal with the “black man” this day and age.

  The only ones with some sense on that show was the doctor and the older, married brother that host the show. That “pimp” dude was a hooooooooooooooooooooooooooot mess and so was that stupid comedian guy. They are the poster children for “ignorant black men.”

  Somebody need to do a show where either you bring women in, on that show, to give another live perspective on what the black men are saying, or do another show like this, but with black women, and for the shows theme song use Destiny’s Child’s song “I’m your girl”

  It’s sad, because it really shows how ignorant black men are for the most part, but then you have that one brotha in there with some sense that gives the black woman some hope that you all are not ignorant, but yaw won’t let him talk half the time. Just ignorant!!!

  YA’LL ALL NEED JESUS!!

• 2 Lolita // Jul 30, 2008 at 10:38 pm

  This was terrible! The doctor was doing his best to educate the “pimp” dude on women, but the panel refused to be educated. The guy who thought he was funny, was simply ignorant. The show should have been handled differently.

• 3 Darrell // Aug 13, 2008 at 3:26 pm

  It does take much to find a negative about anything you may happen to look at. Whether it be people, situations or anything else.

  The unfortunate part of this is that many people have complaints with no solutions. Recognizing problems is fine, but how about thinking of a way to make that problem go away, or make things better than you found them.

  In this country any person of color will have a perception of them that is not based on fact. Yet the fact is that we as blacks have not lived up to our potential. Blaming this or that for our lack of ambition. Fact is that too many blacks have not pulled their weight. For those who this does not pertain to, be not offended.

  This doesn’t mean I want to see more Presidential candidates or lawyers or doctors. It does mean that there are not enough dads, brothers and sons giving their best effort to being personally responsible for their actions.

  Not acknowledging that what I do does have an impact on other people. There is nothing that I can do that only affects me. I must look out for others, care about others, care about myself. Men need to be men, but we must be taught.

  Until attitudes change, there will always be shows portraying us in a negative light. “Keeping it real” is bogus, it’s keeping us down! There will always be the perception of pimps, druggies, jailbirds and the like. Our best defense?, do your best each day, teach our children likewise.

  Change will come, as your great-grandparents would tell you if they could.

• 4 Angel // Aug 20, 2008 at 6:32 pm

  It is not that serious, we cannot look to tv shows to solve our problems, we look to tv for entertainment. And the brothers are great they mediate the thoughts and they know how to keep the pace up and stop from getting off subject. I have to say I did not like the first season with the other host guy, but the brothers do a really great job and they seem honest in their opinions. I never miss a show and so far I have not been disappointed (may be with a guest and their opinions, but not at the show). Great job.

• 5 Cryshanna Dickerson // Aug 20, 2008 at 7:57 pm

  To whom it may concern:

  I would like for Ryan Stewart from Black Men Revealed, to email me at the above address. I have been trying to locate his email address but have had no luck. Or, if somone can please provide me with an email address for Ryan. I am a fan and would like to let him know what a great job he does on his show.

  Thanks for your help.

  Cryshanna

• 6 Cryshanna Dickerson // Aug 20, 2008 at 7:59 pm

  I’m sorry, my email address is http://www.cryshanna9@yahoo.com.

• 7 Anonymous // Aug 24, 2008 at 11:17 pm

  I think the the comedian that aired on the show with Noel Jones talked waay to much and really didn’t make a whole lot of sense. I wanted to hear more from the Dr. and the Bishop as well as the other guys on the panel without him cutting them off or talking while they were talking. He was very loud and annoying.

  Any whoo!! I think that you guys are doing a really good job!! You have my support..

• 8 Washingtonian // Aug 27, 2008 at 10:37 am

  I really enjoyed the show! The show is great just the way it is. Black Men talking, building, with connecting with other STRAIGHT men about the real isues Men deal with!

  Right on! Don’t stop!

• 9 traci mccoy // Sep 14, 2008 at 8:46 pm

  when are you guys gonna balance the show out with a speacial guest apperance from a woman? i think it would add alot of value to the show. i love your show but sometimes it’s just a little one sided and would be a lot better with at least one real woman telling it like it really is!

• 10 Lisa of Texas // Sep 15, 2008 at 5:15 pm

  Hmmmmm, interesting or split with being pissed at episode aired Sunday, September 14th. I say interesting because as a woman I’m curious of BMR’s views on women. I’m a positive strong black woman puzzled with the views of brother on show…saying he prefers Asians women, Black Women are negative or Won’t pay for Dinner? To generalize/label Black Women as negative is just plain wrong and not true! So to mr. negative…you have not had opportunity to interact with a Fine, Fun, Rich in Spirit, Positive, Confident, ‘Can pay for my and your dinner, if desired’!!! So stop generalizing Black Women as negative because if there exist ‘1’ Black Woman with characteristics as I’ve described then you need to be a man and keep ignorant arrogant insults to yourself!!!

  Oh also I as a Black Woman appreciate others on panel who did not agree with mr. negative’s generalization of Black Women!(Heartfelt)

• 11 Carolyn Sellers // Sep 16, 2008 at 6:40 am

  MY comment is concerning the beautiful rug placed in the lime light of all the men. Please send me some information as to where I may purchase this rug. Also, I have hooked up all the single ladies in my office to this very entertaining show. We all just enjoy it very, very much. Keep up the great work, and will be waiting for the info on the rug…..

• 12 JENKIM SOUL // Sep 24, 2008 at 10:49 pm

  The average blackman in the US has a IQ of 75, I mean what do you expect. It can barely keep going day to day with out of staying out of jail. Don’t even mention holding a job or marage. Sisters look elsewhere = Brothers equals STD’s & police raids.

• 13 Lee Ann from Ohio // Oct 14, 2008 at 12:48 am

  I’m a white woman who watches Black Men Revealed which I might add I date black men as well! As I watch this show I see the racism that show has against white woman and or people. They always comment how they will not date white woman and why or cheapin them because they are white always having to put white woman down. Like talking about “everytime they have a white make up person doing their makeup and they always seem to say, you have such a pretty skin color”. Why does that have to be an issue? Why can’t that be just a compliment no matter what color you are? They seem to take that as meaning something racist because why? it happened to come from a “white person”?????? They do have pretty skin but if a black make up person would have said that then they would have said, why thank you and went on their themselves. They always talk about keeping or kicking it with “their own kind” so to speak as their Mother would kill them if they dated white. Well my Mother would kill me for dating black but I do because I cut that umbilical cord along time ago and to tell the truth “I love my Mother” but she needs to pull her head out of her ass and quit being racist! Love a person for a person no matter what color they are!!!! Now I know where their racism comes from they haven’t cut that umbilical cord yet or grown balls to be their own person! I just wish they would quit with the negativity of white people and finally show black men revealing life with LOTS of beautiful colors of people in this world and how to over come racism and to be open minded while having a show being sober talking about it!!!!!

• 14 DR. ARLETT MALVO // Oct 25, 2008 at 2:33 am

  BLACK MALES NEED HELP

  I am writing your office because of my concerns of the criminal activities associated with the black youth and black adult males of your community. I am a trained Mediator and a self made Facilitator. I have developed and facilitate a planning workshop program designed to stimulate critical thinking and progressive planning for the purpose of developing positive changes in the attendee’s behavior. I give strong attention to Cause and Effect methods of which we all know that if the Causes are removed the Effects will go away. At the conclusion of each session, each attendee is expected to have developed a written self-improvement plan for their next four years. These workshops are in four-hour sessions and each session’s attendee cannot exceed 25 youth. The age group for these workshops is 12 years old and above.

  If your office is interested in these workshops, call Dr. Arlett Malvo at 510- 670-0919 or email arlett60@aol.com. Additional information can be found on http://www.arlettmalvo.com or http://www.arlett-malvo.com. We must be more concern of the black males, statistic states that they need help. So let us help them.

  Thank you,
  ARLETT MALVO, DBA

• 15 DR. ARLETT MALVO // Oct 31, 2008 at 2:42 am

  BLACK FEMALES RAISING BLACK MALES
  BY DR. ARLETT MALVO

  In my CD “Salvation of the Black Males” I speak about black females raising black males and the missing fathers. I try to promote fathers taking control of their sons and participating more in the raising of their sons. I believe that only a man (father, Grand Father, Uncle, etc) can raise a boy to become a man. Many females feel that they have raised men, but what I see is that they have raised Adult Black Males (ABM). The question is what is the difference between an Adult Black Male and a Black Man? Yes, I maintain that there are differences between the two. Looking at statistics, 32% of black females are head of household and 23% of black females are raising children under 18 years old. Black men serving as head of household and without a wife totals 6%; while only 3% of black males are raising children under 18 years old. Only 33% of black households are married couples and living together. My question is where are the fathers for the other 67%? When we look at other races, the following apply:

  Whites:
  58% are married,
  9% of females are raising children under 18 years without a

  husband,
  4% of White men are raising children, without a wife in the household
  Asians:
  62% are married,
  9% females are raising children under 18 years old, without a husband,
  5% of Asian men are raising children under 18 years old, without a wife.
  Blacks: (restate)
  33% are married,
  32% of females are raising children under 18 years old without a husband,
  3% of black men are raising children under 18, without a wife.
  Hispanic
  50 are married
  21% of females are raising children under 18 years old without a husband,
  10% of Hispanic men are raising children under 18, without a wife

  (Data from the U.S. Census)

  During the pre-welfare days, black males left home after high school. They either went to college, the military or entered into an on-the-job training program. At this point, they would marry and start their family. Males were also encouraged to go to college rather than females, because males were expected to start and head a household. When these males left home, they only returned to visit and not to live or move back into the family home. If the girlfriend became pregnant, the male would marry her. In many cases, the father and mother insisted that the male marry the female. The male would get a house or apartment and the female would move in with him. The male would focus on getting a job that would support his family. If the female got a job, it would be more money in the household. The male would take full responsibility for his family. Many marriages today, where the male and female have been together for more than 40 years, arose from those days. Most males only dated females that they “could bring home to momma.” I dated my wife for nearly a year before we had sex. A month later, she became pregnant and a month after that, we married and remained married for 35 years before her death. This, to me, was a normal process. We were fortunate, in that, we both continued college and as she finished, I worked. Then when she finished, I worked and went to college part time until I finished and we both became secured in our professions.

  I owe this achievement to my Uncle and Aunt who raised me. My Uncle taught me how to work and how to respond to some of my needs. I recall when I was in the six grade having a fight with a girl and the teacher told me that a boy that would fight a girl was a coward. My Uncle heard of the fight and he told me the same as what the teacher told me. I never hit a female after that. I completed my “Rites of Passage” by entering into the military. In the military, I learned the full scope of responsibility. Not only do you have to be able to respond to self, but you are held responsible for others. I would say this is when I transitioned from a male to a man. When I was discharged, I was able to get a good job and manage my own life. At this point I became a MAN, then a Husband and later a Father. I raised three Girls and one Boy. Thank God, none are on drugs, none are in Jail and each one have taken responsibility in raising their family and became the responsible husband, wife and parent.

  Now during welfare days, early sixties, when black families were able to get welfare, black females with dependant children were allotted welfare, but there were stipulations, no men could be in the house. The welfare agency monitors this situation and agencies randomly search the female’s home, at any time of day or night. Many black men left their home so their family could survive. Many were put out of the home and these families broke up because of money. This was the first destruction of the black family since slavery. Understand, once a child is born between a male and a female, they become a family. This is what GOD said, not me. But when America put the black man out of the home, the family became divided and here is where the problem with our black children began. This is when the black fathers divorced the black family.

  My oldest daughter was telling me about her son living with her who had no job and was over 21 years old. She told me that he would stay out late at night and sleep most of the day. I asked to speak to him and I asked him some basic questions. He began telling me that he was a man because he was over 21 years old. I said no, “you are an Adult Black Male”. He said “grand daddy how do you figure that?” I asked him, “can you respond to your own needs”. He wanted to know what I meant. I then asked him the following questions:

  Can you buy your own food?
  Can you buy your own clothes?
  Do you have your own place to live?
  Are you responding to your child’s needs?

  His answers to all of the questions was “No” and finally he had to admit that he was an ABM and not yet a Man. The next week, he found a job and moved out into his own apartment and never looked back. He got married last year and he is working and taking care of a stay-home-wife/mom. He has three children and I recently told him how proud I was of him, now he has become a Man. Most people get confused between Adult Black Male and a Man. Most people believe that if the male is over 21 years old, he is a man; this is not true. I know males that are in their 40’s and are still ABMs.

  Many females have raised productive sons, but have had to provide much help in getting them on their way. Many of the males have moved from their mother’s residence and moved in with a girlfriend. What is the difference? They are still depending on a female for their livelihood. I personally know of several ABM who refuse to work to avoid paying child support and I am sure that if you review your community, you will find the same. But these ABM’s expect a female to take care of them. Most mothers and black males will disagree with me, but let‘s examine the following:

  Do you live with your mother?
  Does your mother buy and cook your food?
  Does your mother work?
  Do you borrow your mother’s car for a date?
  Do you borrow money from your mother for a date?
  Do you stay in bed during the day and party during the night?
  Do you have children by more than one female?
  Do you have child support orders that you do not pay?
  Are you over 21 years old?
  Is the female head of the household?
  Do you disrespect black females?
  Does your mother wash your clothes?
  Do you sell or use Drugs?
  Have you been to prison or jail within the last year?
  Do you hang out with your friends all day instead of college?
  Is your mother the head of the household?
  Did you move in with a female instead of her moving in with you?

  If any of the above answers are “YES”, then you are an Adult Black Male.

  A MAN is a person that is able to respond to his own needs. He is raised to be a man, a husband and a father. He is able to respond to a wife’s needs as well as his children. He has taken charge of his family. He does not use females, including his mother. Men do not take from females, but support them. He respect females, he heads the household, he leads the family, and he has to train the children, particularly the sons. He has to prove to himself in order to be a man.

  Some say that the black females are being degraded by black men in videos and causing people to look down at them. This cannot be true. If it was not for the black females, our (the black race) race would be in more trouble than it is. Black females have kept the race together. The black males have failed the race and themselves and it’s time for them to wake up and learn how to take charge. He must take time to be a man. He must reverse all of the above YES’s to NO’s. Once you have become a man, then start practicing how to be a husband and start taking the time to practicing being a Father.

  This paper is not to degrade the black male, but to get him to look at himself and his children, in particular, his sons. The female can not raise a boy to become a man and only can raise ABM. An ABM also can not make a Man until he has experienced being a man himself. I am asking all black males to take a look at his self and then reach out to his male children. We all are concerned about the criminal activities of our black males, but remember each one of them has a father and a mother. It is time that the fathers take charge. We as ABM and Black Men must practice treating Black Females with respect and love. All black males must change their consciences and improve their lifestyle.

• 16 Linda // Mar 17, 2009 at 10:28 pm

  I watched the show “Why I Never Call Her Back” and am very upset once again the Bible is being used as tool to oppress/suppress women. Your panelist quoted the Bible as saying “Man has dominance over all” , and woman should not be allowed to “run thangs”. I interpreted Man, as being Mankind, women included. Your panelist also belives that Adam was created first, which just isn’t true. Adam and his 1st wife Lillith were created at the exact same time, from the exact same stuff of life. During lovemaking Adam insisted his wife lie beneath him. Lillith objected. Adam tried to force his view on her, and Lillith left. Eve was created from Adam, forever to be a slave to the slave because she came from his flesh. I’ve recently learned stories in the Bible are thousands of years older than the Bible itself, with positive goddesses and heroines, and even writings by Mary Magdelene left out intentionally. It kills me when people try to use a person’s sex against them (with Bible quoted back-ups) as a reason not to let them “run thangs” or even be an equal.

• 17 Dana // Mar 25, 2009 at 5:33 pm

  i love the show. i would like to be there for a taping of the show. email me with the information if possible.

• 18 comment on the 3/25/09 show // Mar 25, 2009 at 9:00 pm

  I dont think that the pimp that is on there should give any comments about how to do anything about a woman. He takes advantage of women for money. makes women more like animals. for sex and money for him and him only. He knows nothing about love relationships or marriage, he is a straight up dogggggggggggg

• 19 Dana // Mar 26, 2009 at 12:00 pm

  Thank you for provide me information so I can help the mens in my life. love the show.

• 20 Anonymous // Apr 8, 2009 at 11:50 am

  Wow dumbest show I’ve seen so far

• 21 Lord, spare meee! // May 5, 2009 at 1:18 pm

  “Ocean” has to be THE biggest IDIOT ever. I realize he’s “young”, however, he is at fault for insisting on staying stupid. His views are irrelevant and he’s not even close to being funny. I failed to notice his occupation, but if it’s in comedy…he needs to find a REAL JOB…with “THE QUICKNESS!” As for Mr. “Confusion”, lol, he lost credibility the moment he revealed he was married to an Asian woman. What a joke! Given the disparity of numbers regarding black men and women; it’s no wonder so many intelligent black women stay CELIBATE.

• 22 Tinsley Brooks // Jul 29, 2009 at 8:37 pm

  When will you have new shows?

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