By Justine Love
Question: Do all men in prison lie and use people??????
Hello Justine and thanks for taking the time to read this letter,
My question is basically this….I think I may even know the answer but hey asking for help never hurt anyone. I’ve been dealing with this guy who has been in prison for the past 10 yrs. I’ve known him for about 2 ½ years, our relationship has grown and I know that I’m in love with him however, I’m not to sure if I am making a mistake. He keeps telling me know matter what, when he comes home next year even if we’re not together in a relationship, we will always be friends. He’s very religious and doesn’t want to rush into anything. He says he has been praying about us and that he is waiting for GOD to lead him in the right direction. You see I’m a full figured female and that is something I know he HATES, but tries to be nice about it. I feel so stuck and torn at the same time. He’s actually the only man that I’ve had any contact with besides the men I work with or family members. I feel empty when we don’t talk or I don’t visit. I’m not to sure about what to do. Right now things are confusing since on one hand he’s saying let’s wait on the Lord and then on the other he says you may not be the one for me. What do you think? Man this is crazy and I want to just run but I am so caught up right now.
Thanks again
Sissypaige
Response:
Invest in a pair of good sneakers and then run for your mental and emotional life.
You were right -you knew the answer to your question. It is not a question of whether men in prison lie and use people, it is the fact we allow people to set us up for emotional rollercoasters because we are so needy.
I never question anyone’s religious beliefs, but I do question when one uses God as a tool to not tell the truth.
This man has said to you that he really doesn’t want to be in meaningful relationship with you but he does want your attention.
Sissy, wake up and move on, your Mr. Right is definitely Mr. Wrong for you. You have got to believe that you deserve better and value your worth. Alicia Keys and Maxwell sang it so well; listen to the words in “Woman’s Worth”.
Always remember if no one told you they loved you today I do…..
Justine
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3 responses so far ↓
1 Mila // Mar 18, 2008 at 8:47 pm
I would like to share a story of mines with you. I knew someone that was locked up and I did the visits and writting also a little cash in the canteen thing. I believed that we were going to be together once he got out. Well guess what? Wrong answer. Let me tell you how I almost got played and ended up playin him . He informed me that his mom was picking him up the day he got out. That he needed clothes to come home in because the clothes that he went in with were too small. ok… clothes it is. Nice shirt, jeans and the Timberland boots. I get it and take it there to him but wondering why is mom picking him up. No problem she misses him and i’ll have him for the night. Yeahaaa. Anyways i find out that a chick is going to pick him up that happens to be his girlfriend. Well guess what? I called the jail and explained the situtation to the person on duty that deals with the clothes (it was a female) she understood and told me to come get my stuff i had left there for him. I did. When he went to change his clothes he noticed there was nothing new in there for him. Same ole’ clothes. Of course he called me very angry but you know what? I told him “let her buy your clothes.” I’m nobodys fool. Yes girl I can say that a good 80% or more do lye! Don’t get caught up in it. There is someone out there that will love you for who you are full figure and all. All that fullness is just love.
2 Mila // Mar 18, 2008 at 8:50 pm
My bad it’s “lie”
3 Michele // Mar 19, 2008 at 1:02 pm
Ladies, come on. The men in prison tells you just what they think you want to hear for the moment. That’s your moment their moment comes when he is (being released from prison.) It’s sad but true. All the truth comes out then. Ladies we were born to be strong and intelligent people not fools. Don’t go for the hipe. And anyone who meets a man while he is in prison then gets involved in a relationship with him deserves everything she gets for being a fool. Some some women say oh I did a background check on him~what about the dark side that you don’t know that’s not on his background. I can tell a story on this I work for men in the prison system. Stop the madness women with the self esteem problem. It’s not cute that you just want say I got a man. Especially when it’s not a man with a plan. Sit back and analyze yourself before making a crazy decision.
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